The Blind Spot Diagnostic:
How You Show Up With People
Other people feel how you show up — what you're protecting, what you're holding back, the version of yourself you put on. This session makes it visible.
A 90-minute feedback session on Zoom.
Most of us carry patterns in how we show up that we can't see from the inside: the way we enter a room, the tension we hold, the way we respond to others, a part of ourselves we keep back, not speaking up when we want to share, where our eyes look. Other people feel them anyway.
This isn't about learning to impress people at work. It's about dropping the masks, showing up as yourself, and letting real connection happen with whoever's in front of you, at work, with friends, with family.
And how you show up with people isn't a separate topic from the rest of your life. The same patterns are running everywhere — presence is just where they're easiest to see.
Overview
What happens in the session
In the session, I’ll ask you to speak, and to do some specific movements. We’ll record this, and watch the playback together. As we do, I'll reflect back what I notice across various dimensions, without judgment. What you do with it is your choice: what you want to work on, and what you'd rather leave as is.
You'll leave with a clearer picture of how you land with people, and one or two specific things you can start working with right away. If you want to go further, we'll talk about what that could look like.
It works whether you're new to this kind of work or have tried a lot already.
Presence is one of several lenses I work through, as part of transformation work toward self-actualization. It’s a key window to see patterns still running us. Sometimes it's the one that matters most; sometimes it just reveals something deeper we might have missed, or shows us where to look next.
What we look at
This is really about finding our blind spots — the parts of us showing up in our energy, the patterns running us that we can't see, but others feel. Here are some examples of where I'll be looking:
Vulnerability & intimacy: Are you letting people in, or keeping them at a distance?
Head vs. body: Are you in your body, or living in your head?
Feeling: Are you letting yourself feel, or suppressing your feelings?
Masks: Which versions of yourself do you put on, and when?
Leading vs. receiving: Are you able to both lead and receive? Or do you lean hard one way or another?
Assertive vs. passive: Do you take up your space, or give it away?
Posture: Where are you holding tension, and what does your posture communicate?
Creativity: Is there play and spontaneity in how you show up, or is it all held in place?
Your effect on the room: Do people feel room to speak around you, or do you take up all the air? Or does your presence go unnoticed?
How you talk: How much do you speak, and are you passing information or making connection?
How I learned this & the impact in my life
I trained with Andrew Daniel in a lineage of embodied presence work that goes back several decades, and has been used by executives, entrepreneurs, actors, musicians, and people from all walks of life seeking self-actualization — people looking for that feeling they can’t name, that goes beyond success.
Through group coaching and hours a day of reviewing video footage, I learned to read how someone is showing up in their body, their voice, and the space around them, including the patterns they aren't aware of. Including my own.
For years I showed up to work meetings, to friends and family, with a feeling of searching, a feeling of low-level anxiety, suppressing feelings, speaking too informationally and not at a relational level. I’d wear various masks, from a happy mask, to a serious mask. I had fear of fully showing up authentically as myself, and so I’d either suppress myself from full expression, or put on pretenses. Either way, I felt off center.
Through this work, I found true peace in the way I showed up with people. To be myself. To also show up for others. To not have to make every interaction about me. To be able to open my heart fully and feel rooted in the present with true connection.
Read more about my journey of awakening →
The session
90 minutes, on Zoom. Free until the end of October 2026 — $200 after that, credited in full toward a coaching package if you decide to continue.
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